5 Tips for Successful Divorce Mediation

No one enters a marriage expecting it to end in divorce, but it certainly still happens. Once the decision to end the marriage has been made, the next question is how? If you and your spouse are considering divorce, opting to seek a mediator's help can save you money and a long and arduous court process. 

The purpose of divorce mediation is to allow both parties to express their needs and concerns, and hear the other party’s needs and concerns, while working toward a compromise that fits both spouse’s needs. No two divorces are the same, so having a divorce mediator on your side can help avoid the cookie-cutter divorce proceedings done by the courts. 

If you and your spouse are considering starting mediation, here are some things you should do before getting started. 

1. Come Prepared: Preparing for mediation is one of the best ways to ensure your mediation process goes smoothly. Take time to reflect on the issue that will be discussed, research topics, and examine the facts and the laws related to your divorce. Create a list of what you want to achieve in the mediation and focus on your best interest. Also, remember to gather all the financial documents and other necessary paperwork, including monthly bills, tax returns, bank statements, and detailed income records.
2. Have an Open Mind: When attending mediation sessions, it is important to be open-minded. Try to focus on the facts of the situation, rather than your emotions. You and your spouse may have different values and goals for participating in divorce mediation. Having an open mind can help facilitate smooth mediation sessions while reducing stress throughout the process. Listen carefully to the other party's point of view, and be willing to compromise when necessary.
3. Take Breaks: Taking breaks during divorce mediation can be helpful, especially during moments of tension. If you feel that your emotions are quickly building up, step away to re-evaluate the situation. This will allow both parties to reflect on their feelings, think clearly, and consider their options. Taking breaks can also help reduce tension and enable each party to relax.
4. Identify What Is Most Important to You: During mediation, it is essential to establish what is important to you. Part of this includes setting your goals and having realistic expectations. If you have one, you should discuss your desired outcomes for mediation with your attorney. If you do not have counsel, a consultation with a seasoned divorce lawyer should help you set realistic expectations and give you a sense of how to handle the negotiations.
5. Understand Your Rights and Options: Mediation is typically a less taxing way to address divorce matters, but it does not work for everyone. If you think divorce mediation isn't working for you despite putting your best foot forward, you may need to consider other legal options like litigation, or talk to a divorce attorney about your legal rights and options.

Contact Our Cincinnati Divorce Mediators Today to Get Started

If you and your spouse are considering divorce, our Cincinnati divorce mediators are ready to facilitate a resolution, with guidance and support. Contact Wagner & Blochonline or call (513) 751-4420 to discuss your case.